Limbo

When I was a management consultant I hated my job, but at a low level of hatred. It was never bad enough for me to take a bold decision. So I carried on, spiralling into the following loop:

1. I hate this, I must move on
2. Move on to do what?
3. Something to do with my strengths…
4. What sort of thing do you have in mind?
5. Erm. Psychologist?
6. That’s 5 years full time study! Do you really want to be poor?
7. But I can’t do this for the rest of my life!
8. So what do you want to do?
9. Erm. Start my own business?
10. IN WHAT???

Then  would trudge back to work, life would take over and a few months later I would think:

1. I hate this, I must move on.

This state of limbo lasted more than 3 years, during which I took two sabbaticals to ‘find myself’ (I found myself mainly watching sport and drinking), got fat, tried to set up a property company in a half arsed way, then unsurprisingly lost a deposit on a flat in Hungary, toyed with setting up a cricket coaching company , and even tried to set up a bar.  In Bow.  None of these options did I look at properly or seriously.  They were distractions from limbo.

Each time I looked into psychology I felt too old to change, too scared of losing all my money and too short of ideas to make it work.  I was lost, so I went back round the cycle again and again.

That was limbo.

But as it turns out limbo was my lowest point.  As soon as I recognised it I was past the worst.  If you’re in limbo, I hope this wakes you up.

Headstuck! The Book

So, dear readers, I am writing a book.  It is going to be called Headstuck!  The Psychology of Career Change.  It will be dedicated to you, dear brave career changer, and I will pour every ounce of my knowledge – such as it is – and my love into it.

I would love to hear form readers of this blog what they would find useful to include in the book or what kind of questions they would like me to cover.

To give you an idea of what I’m aiming at, this is the first part of my proposal:

Are you in a ‘good’ job but find yourself thinking that there must be more to life?  Do you ever wonder if there’s a job out there which you’d be better suited to?

If so, you are not alone.  Millions of people aren’t happy at work – 70% of us are not really engaged in what we do and job satisfaction has fallen by nearly a third in the past 20 years.

Yet many of us don’t know what else we could do.  All the alternatives seem scary and it’s difficult to know which career might suit us better.  We can try personality and career ‘matching’ tests but somehow these leave us feeling more confused than ever (but what would I know?  The computer says I should have been a dental hygienist).  So we go back to our current jobs… feeling stuck.

Feeling Headstuck is the sense of going round and round in circles as we try to find our best career direction.  Feeling Headstuck is a nagging feeling that there is something out there that’s better, if only we could work out what.  It is a feeling of being trapped between an unwanted present and an uncertain future – and that there is no way out.  But there is…

This book looks at the reasons why we get Headstuck and what we can do about it.  Combining the latest research in psychology, decision sciences and scientific theories of behavioural change, it will help readers get unstuck and moving in a direction they can flourish in.

 

Career Change in 2012

To celebrate the New Year, I’ve updated my career change presentation, Career Paralysis.  I’ve had so many people contact me from this, it has clearly tapped a nerve.

The best way of viewing it is to download it and then view it in slide show mode.  But you can just click through below – it only takes 10 minutes or so.

Anyway, if you feel like you’re in career paralysis and if this speaks to you, do get in touch.

May 2012 be the year you get unstuck and start to move forward with purpose…Happy New Year, everyone.

Career Change in 2011: Looking Back

If you’re reading this blog, you are (presumably) someone thinking of changing their career or in the process of changing their career.  Welcome.

So, how did you get on in 2011?  Do you look back on 2011 with satsifaction and pride? Do you feel you have achieved what you wanted to?

Sometimes my career clients look back on a year and think they have failed.  They have not found their ideal direction, they have not summoned the courage to leave a job they hate or they have not landed the job they want.

Life can be pretty tough when we judge ourselves only against goals.  Our minds are pretty tough taskmasters.

I’m not suggesting there’s a way to change this, (though noticing how harsh minds are is a good start), but I am suggesting there are different ways of looking at achievements.

What kind of character strengths did you show in 2011?  For example:

  • To what extent did you persist at your goals, despite the difficult circmstances and lack of reward?
  • In what ways did you show courage? (remember, courage is not the absence of fear, but a choice to move forward with fear).
  • Even in situations where you did not achieve your goal, how often could you be found working away, trying, showing up?
  • How many times did you come back to your goal, to try again?
  • How many times did you continue to make ‘towards’ moves, even when your mind screamed at you to move away?

When I ask clients to reflect on their goals, the answer for most of them is that they have not yet achieved their career goals.  However, they have certainly demonstrated character strengths.  If this is you, just pause to acknowledge this for a moment.

These character strengths are achievements in themselves.  They are also precursors of success.

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”

 

CV Writing: Finding Your Authentic Voice

For most of my life I have spoken in ways that I thought other people wanted to hear.  For example, when I wanted to become a management consultant, I would speak like consultants spoke.  I was all about processes, change maps and risk registers.  Dinner party hosts across the land would fight not to invite me round for tea.

Even today I think my worst blog posts come as a result of trying to write in a way which I think might ‘impress’ someone.

The result is usually that I bore people to death and miss a chance to actually connect with people.

I was reminded of the imperative to connect with people when I read Benedict Le Gauche’s hilarious CV.  If you haven’t read it, do so now.

Of course, being a serious professional, I am not recommending mimicking his style and content, but I am suggesting we can learn something from him.  There is something refreshing and comforting about reading it.  Somehow, I can’t help thinking that I wish he worked in my office.

The ability to communicate a serious message in a human way is really important in a job search.  This isn’t about trying to ‘stand out’ with gimmicks, but finding ways of reflecting your authentic self on paper or in person.

How well does your CV portray you as a person?  How well does it capture what y0u are actually like and what actually fires you up?  How authentically are you able to talk about why you’re a good fit for a job?  Other humans can tell when you’re going through the motions.

For further inspiration, here a couple of other CVs which manage to convey a message – without losing the person behind it.

 

The Voice That Says ‘I Am Brilliant’

It started to happen when I did well in exams at school.  It gained serious momentum when I got a first at University.  Then it became a pattern when I got onto various prestigious graduate programmes.

It’s the thought in my head that says ‘I am brilliant’.

I mean, I have lots of other voices that tell me how much of a failure I am.  But this voice never truly goes away.  It tells me that I am special.  That I have unique gifts and that I must use them.

This is also the voice that tells me that other people should recognise my brilliance.  If only they knew how brilliant I am they might treat me differently.  And when a client session goes really well, this voice pipes up.  Oh wow!  You are brilliant!

And this is the voice that can turn on me, suddenly, viciously, when I get something even slightly wrong.  When I try to do things that are ‘good enough’ and press send.  When I say something awkward in a conversation.  So often, I write e-mails I don’t send.  I shy away from going out and meeting people and doing projects that would help me develop, in case it goes wrong and the voice turns.

The longer I do nothing, the longer I get to keep the idea ‘I am brilliant’.  It’s a strategy that really works.

Except in the long term , of course.  In the long term it doesn’t work in really important ways.  And some less important ways, too.

Today I had a really stimulating conversation with someone who I really admire.  He asked me whether I’d ever read any John Updike.  I hadn’t, so the conversation stalled.

The voice stopped me wasting time on fiction years ago.

How to Find Meaning in Work

Finding meaning in work becomes a whole lot simpler if you start from a clear definition.  So if you are reading this without reading my previous posts it might be worth doing.

By using a definition of meaning as comprehension in context, it is possible to identify a model of meaning in work which can be empirically tested.  It may be worth identifying what my model turned out to be:

Predictors of Meaning in Work

1.  Strength of purpose – I hypothesised that by identifying a strong and well articulated purpose people are far more likely to interact with the world, experience more and in turn generate more learning and comprehension.
2.  Transcendent purpose.  I hypothesised that people have different types of purpose and I compared people who reported a ‘self related’ purpose (i.e. to make money, or be successful) with those who also had a transcendent purpose (i.e. to ‘dent the universe’ or impact the world in some way).  I hypothesised that those with self-related purpose will be focused on themselves and their immediate surroundings.  Those with a transcendent purpose will have a wider experience, because theirs is an “externally oriented quest” to affect the world around them through their work (Damon, Mennon, Cotton Bronk, 2003).  Thus over time, a transcendent purpose would bring someone into contact with more stimuli than the narrower self-related purpose, and eventually to greater comprehension.
3.  Use of strengths at work. By understanding one’s own strengths, individuals display and experience a certain amount of self-understanding.  By subsequently using strengths at work, this also implies some understanding of what the world needs in terms of that individual’s contribution.
4.  Work role fit.  Work role fit refers to the relation of the individual employee to the role that s/he performs in the organisation (Kristof, 1996).  Researchers have linked work role fit to meaning due to the connection between a person’s sense of identity and the role which they fulfil at work (e.g. Brief & Nord, 1990; Shamir, 1991).

Clearly, there are other predictors which could increase comprehension (like job control).  But these were the predictors which seemed most likely to increase comprehension in context and to be largely under the control of the individual.

So what did I find?

  • As hypothesised, each of these 4 factors did significantly predict meaning in work.
  • As a predictive model, these factors accounted for 73% of the variance of meaning in work.  This is a very good model.
  • Transcendent purpose did predict meaning in work, but of those who reported a self related purpose, they were less likely to experience meaning in work.  In other words, if you want meaning in work, you need to focus beyond your own self interest.
  • Meaning in work fully mediated the relationship with employee engagement and psychological wellbeing. So it is good for both health and productivity.

Conclusion

By identifying a clear and transcendent purpose and by using one’s strengths in a job which fits with one’s own values we can find much greater meaning in work.  But in addition, (in keeping with classic work design models like the Job Characteristics Model) this state of meaningfulness also predicts  other desirable outcomes like employee engagement and psychological wellbeing.

This is my own experience too.  When I had work with little meaning, my mental health and performance plummeted.  Now I have a great deal of meaning in work, both have risen.

Below are my slides from when I presented these findings at various psychology and career coaching conferences:

How to find meaning in work

View more presentations from Rob Archer

How does Meaning Differ from Purpose?

In a previous post I argued that meaning is about comprehension:

“At its simplest level, meaning (or comprehension) indicates that the individual knows how to respond in terms of both emotion and goal-directed action… (it) is a process of sense-making which connects an individual’s existence to a wider understanding of the world.  The adaptability of humans can be explained by the need to understand ourselves in context, because that has always been essential to our survival”.

My subsequent research, which proposed a model of meaning in work, gave empirical support to this definition.

The beauty of this definition is that it allows meaning and purpose to be seen as related, but distinct.

Purposes have been defined as a type of high-level, unifying goal, which help to organise lower-order goals in terms of day-to-day activity (e.g. Damon, Menon & Bronk, 2003). When applied to work, having a strong and clear purpose is likely to involve high intrinsic motivation and persistence of effort.

As Klinger argues, purpose is innate.  No one is without purpose – and it is purpose that leads us to encounter a mass of different stimuli in pursuit of goals.  Comprehension may or may not always ensue from these encounters, but the process of evaluation (i.e. cognition) is ongoing (e.g. Ryff & Singer, 1989a).   Where comprehension is not achieved, unease  follows, because we don’t know how to respond in terms of action.  But where comprehension is achieved, it is usually rewarded affectively.  Comprehension is an outcome of purpose based on our experiences and crucially, learning to understand them.

How Purpose Can Increase Meaning

Purposes bring us into contact with lots of people, events, activities and other stimuli on a daily basis.   Over time, this activity will increase an individual’s understanding of themselves, their organisation, and how they fit within the world around them (Steger & Dik, in press).  In effect, we learn meaning.

However, whilst everyone has purpose, the strength of purpose can vary.  For example, Emmons (2005) found that unifying and deeply held goals lead to greater meaning than smaller, more tactical goals.

In my research, I hypothesised that strength of purpose increases levels of activity, exposure to a wider range of stimuli which over time will increase understanding of self in context (my definition of meaning in work).

Geeky Stats Warning

In a sample of over 400 people, this was indeed what I found, with strength of purpose being a key predictor of meaning in work, and a conceptual model that explained (for all you stats fans) a whopping 73% of the variance in meaning in work:

I also proposed that type of purpose would affect meaning.  This led to some very interesting results which have implications for all of us, but that is for another post…

What is Meaning in Work?

When I retrained to become a psychologist, my research centred on meaning in work.  That’s because my work to date (as a management consultant) had been pretty meaningless, but I did not reallyknow what to do about it.

So my research questions were:

  • What is meaning in work?
  • How can I find it?

I wanted to create and test a model of meaning which would be scientifically valid but which would also be usable for people who wanted to identify meaning in work for themselves.

In this post I want to deal with the first question, what is meaning in work?

There’s a lot of confusion even in academic circles about what meaning is, and I spent months sifting through these definitions.  Eventually however I came to a clear conclusion, via a brilliant psychologist called Eric Klinger, who argued (1998) that meaning can be seen from an evolutionary perspective.

Think about your ancestors.  What di their survival depend on?  Foraging for food?  Avoiding the woolly mammoth?  Right on.  Humans evolved problem solvers, moving and adapting to meet new challenges and goals.  We survived by being able to respond to our environment and meet a succession of context-dependent goals.  All of our goals relate to survival, at least at the genetic level.

The interesting bit comes when we consider how we evolved to do this.  The cognitive processes we developed (i.e. our senses, thoughts and emotions), all evolved to help us do one thing: understand the potential dangers and opportunities that come our way during the pursuit of our goals.  It is understanding that enables action to be taken in the pursuit of goals.  And successful pursuit of goals = survival.

Klinger argued that the role of human cognition is to manage the process of comprehension, working to sort out “the ambiguous or confusing stimuli…until they can be dismissed as irrelevant, or channelled into the emotional / motivation / action systems” (p31).

What does that mean?  It means that at the heart of the human operating system is an absolute imperative to understand the world around us.

This is not a ‘nice to have’.  Without understanding we feel uneasy (it’s not for nothing our greatest fear is the fear of the unknown).  Conversely, understanding brings relief.  Think about the ‘aha!’ moment when you figure a problem out. It is pleasant because this is a relief from the burden of not knowing, even if the news is unpleasant.  (Think about how a diagnosis of a mystery illness brings relief).  That’s because with understanding we are able to act with purpose.  Without it we are unsure and lack direction.

Meaning is therefore simple.  It is about comprehension, whether that be for small things (like comprehending a word in a sentence) or very large things (like the meaning of one’s work).  With meaning, we know how to respond in terms of both emotion and goal-directed action.  As Baumeister (1991) argued, meaning in life is therefore a process of sense-making which connects an individual’s existence to a wider understanding of the world.  When we have meaning we understand ourselves in context, and that has always been essential to our survival.

Today, meaning often is not linked to survival.  But the inate drive remains the same.  Without a sense of meaning our lives can feel as though they don’t make much sense.  Our life’s events do not seem to fit any narrative.  We begin to feel uneasy, and feel less and less agency over our place in the world. A pretty fair summation of my time as a management consultant!

Conversely, with meaning we understand ourselves and our place in the world. We know how to relate to others. Whilst wee still experience difficult emotions, we understand why we are experiencing them and we generally know what to do about them.  And that’s a fair summation of my life as a psychologist.

In the next post, I’ll explore how meaning differs from purpose and why it’s diferent to happiness, before going on to consider how to actually achieve meaning in work.

Finding True North: How to Clarify Values (part 2)

In my previous post I talked about the need to explore values in career change and to look for patterns across a number of different tests.  That’s because I am sceptical that there is a single list of values which covers every context.  The best we can do is think from different perspectives about what’s really important to us.

Over the years I have taken countless values exercises and tests.  Below are some of the best and I’ve interspersed my results to demonstrate the variability involved – and the risks of doing just one!

  1. The Obituary Exercise
  2. Values in action questionnaire
  3. Your Values by Franklin Covey
  4. Values Sort Task by Goodwork Toolkit
  5. Career Values by Stewart Cooper & Coon
  6. Valued Living Questionnare

1. The Obituary Exercise

The classic and probably still the one that has had most impact on me.  How do you want to be remembered?  Try it here.

My values in this test always include doing meaningful work first and foremost.  This means using my skills and talents to actually make a difference to other people and to ‘dent the universe’ in some way.  Another top value (for me and others) is courage.  I don’t want the fears I experience day to day to hold me back.

2. Values in action questionnaire

I have taken this test 6 times over a period of 8 years.  Although my top 6 values vary each time, there are some which remain consistent.  The values which have made it in every time are:

  • Judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness
  • Curiosity and interest in the world
  • Social intelligence
  • Fairness, equity, and justice

3. Your Values by Franklin Covey

I think this is an excellent resource which asks different questions to elicit values.  My values here include growth and development, curiosity, humour and freedom.

4. Values Sort Task by Goodwork Toolkit

Having said I don’t like ranking values, it can be quite revealing to ‘sort’ them for importance.  This online values sorting tool is quite fun and works well.  My top values here turned out to be honesty and integrity, social concerns and professional accomplishment.

5. Career Values by Stewart Cooper & Coon

Another values sorting exercise, but the sorting is done differently and so it is interesting to observe differences.  I find this kind of test more difficult because it is hard to know how to assign importance to values without comparing them to other values.  Therefore, I think you respond differently to the values at the beginning of the test than the end.

The values that came top in this test were freedom, security, helping others, recognition, honesty and integrity.

6. Valued Living Questionnaire

This test is used extensively by the ACT community, along with the similar Bull’s Eye.  This test identifies 10 different life domains and asks you to identify key values in each.  Clearly, this test deals with broader values than those which simply relate to work.  Nevertheless, this in itself can be useful to identify any conflicts or tensions between work-related values and values in other life domains.

My work-related values in this test include doing meaningful work (again), making a difference to others, collaborating with excellent people and acting with integrity.

Conclusion

There’s a huge range of different values tests out there.  The ones listed above are really good and all of them are free.  However, they do tend to yield different results and this can be disconcerting.  However, remember that you do not have a single set of values – too much depends on context.  So take these tests and look out for patterns.  And when you have your list, hold it lightly and aks yourself in this moment, which way is True North?